Why Your Match.com Profile Matters
Your Match.com profile is the first impression that potential matches will have of you when browsing the site. It’s essentially your online dating resume. A well-written profile showcases your best qualities and gives others a sense of who you are and what you’re looking for in a partner. But too many profiles are lacking in key details or come across as boring or uninteresting. This results in far fewer likes, matches, and messages.
Taking the time to craft an engaging profile is important if you want the best chances of finding a meaningful connection. That’s why so many people choose to have a writer help them. A good profile writer can bring an objective, professional perspective to highlighting your most attractive traits and creating a cohesive narrative that draws others in. They know what information and approach works best based on their experience analyzing countless successful profiles.
Having someone else write it means surrendering control over how you present yourself. So for those who want more input, a valuable option is to work collaboratively with a profile writer. They’ll guide you through an in-depth consultation and questions to uncover your personality, values, and goals. Then provide structure and editing assistance to help you tell your personalized story in the most compelling way yourself.
Whether you write it alone or get help, the goal is the same – to stand out from the crowd and pique enough interest that people want to learn more about you through your photos and messages. An optimized Match.com profile greatly increases your odds of finding a meaningful connection.
The Anatomy of an Effective Match.com Profile
While you want your profile to reflect your authentic self, there are certain components that research has proven generate the most favorable responses:
Headline
Keep it short (preferentially under 50 characters with spaces) yet enticing. Use strong yet playful language drawing on one of your qualities, hobbies or what you’re seeking. Avoid generic expressions like “looking for someone special”.
Examples:
“Cheesy jokes & long walks welcome”
“Foodie seeking fellowventure”
“Lawyer who dreams big”
About Me section
Focus on three key things: who you are, what you’re looking for and your interests/passions. This is your chance to showcase your best qualities in an engaging 150-300 word narrative. Structure it like a short story with a beginning, middle and end. Keep language positive yet realistic.
Photos
Include 5-6 clear, well-lit photos showing your face and full body from different angles/activities. Smiling shots that show your interests and social life perform best. No selfies, bathing suits or ambiguous photos. Make sure photos match your age/body type described. Ask a friend to take new photos if needed.
What I’m Doing With My Life
Briefly share your career, education and life goals in 2-3 sentences. Avoid listing job titles alone. For example: “Working as an assistant professor while pursuing my PhD in psychology. Passionate about research and helping others through counseling.”
I’m Really Good At
List 2-3 skills, talents or strengths. Focus on things positive, unique or that highlight your best qualities versus daily tasks. For example: “Baking delicious homemade treats. Serenading friends on guitar. Cooking global cuisine.” Avoid cliches.
Favorite Books, Movies, Shows, Music & Food
List 3-5 selections from each category to give a sense of your interests and taste. For example: “The Alchemist, Eat Pray Love, Gone Girl; Breakfast Club, La La Land, Avengers; This Is Us, The Good Place; The Beatles, Ed Sheeran, Adele; Pizza, sushi, homemade Thai.”
6 Things I Could Never Do Without
List 6 necessities that show your character and priorities in life. For example: “My friends & family, laughter, adventures outdoors, Spotify, my morning coffee, Harry Potter books.”
I Spend A Lot Of Time Thinking About
Rather than leave blank, use this chance to reveal more about your mindset and values through 2-3 insightful choices. For example: “How I can make a positive impact. New destinations to explore. Improving mental wellness for others.”
On A Typical Friday Night I Am
Describe a realistic weekly activity, social life and lifestyle to set proper expectations. For example: “Catching up with friends over drinks then dinner. Cooking at home while catching up on shows. Volunteering then relaxing with a book.”
You Should Message Me If
Politely list 1-2 must-haves to attract compatible matches. For example: “You enjoy the outdoors as much as trying new cafes. You seek intellectually stimulating conversation over cocktails.”
Writing Your Match.com Profile: Additional Tips
Beyond the key components, here are more tips for an even stronger Match.com profile:
Use well-written, fully formed sentences with varied sentence structure and positive language. Avoid one word answers.
Convey confidence yet humility through your word choices and tone without arrogance. Show rather than just tell your qualities.
Focus on who you are and what you value rather than past relationships or what you want from a partner specifically.
Incorporate humor when natural to your style but avoid jokes that could offend. Playful self-deprecation can work when not overdone.
Share a balanced mix of interests that reflect your personality yet leave mysteries to explore on dates versus listing every detail.
Keep things PG-13 by avoiding discussions of sex, drugs or religion/politics which are potential dealbreakers.
Proofread carefully for typos, grammar errors or statements that could be misinterpreted before publishing.
Limit profile to 500 words maximum so it’s engaging rather than overwhelming to read.
Leave some space on your profile to regularly update and add fresh perspectives to stay active.
After launching, take Match.com’s personality quiz for better matches and upgrade if possible for more profile views.
Collaborating with a Professional Profile Writer
If you hire a profile writer, here’s what to expect from the process:
Consultation
Have an in-depth phone or video call discussing your relationship history, values, hobbies and dealbreakers. This uncovers your unique story and qualities to highlight.
Profile Draft
The writer composes and structures your profile content based on the consultation while maintaining your authentic voice. They provide a draft for review.
Feedback & Edits
You have the opportunity to request changes and discuss any part of the draft in detail until you approve the final version. Additional feedback is encouraged later.
Profile Tweaks
Even after launch, ongoing collaboration is offered as your needs or relationship status changes to keep your profile continuously optimized.
Ongoing Support
Writers continue assisting with your dating journey as needed – reviewing messages, advising on first dates, suggesting photo updates and more.
A collaborative approach ensures your profile authentically showcases you while taking advantage of a professional’s matching expertise. With their help, you can maximize your chances for meaningful connections on Match.com.
Andrew Stroud